Improve your juggling skills while you're stuck at home
Several years ago, the then-CEO of Coca Cola, Bryan Dyson, said this as part of a commencement speech at Georgia Tech:
"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends and spirit - and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends, and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life."
For several years—as long as we owned a home, I had this quote scripted on a chalkboard that sat by my bathroom mirror, so I was reminded multiple times per day.
We also had 4 beautifully handcrafted glass blown ornaments and one rubber lacrosse ball—all various shades of blue and green (my favorite colors) that sat perched in a basket as the centerpiece of our kitchen table.
I say and share this to remind you (or help you realize for the first time if this seems foreign to you)—That In this time — and at any time in life — rest assured that WORK will bounce back.
I closed my business 5 times when going through cancer treatment—and each time it bounced back stronger than it was before.
I did need to ask for financial assistance in those times to help make ends meet.
There was nothing wrong with this.
What it did was allow me the space to be and feel and heal, rather than not only stress over my health, but also survival.
If you’re in stress and threat mode—a business will not grow or thrive, just like a human body will not either.
I have talked to business owners all week who state that it is wrong or shameful to ask for financial assistance.
That those who do shouldn’t have been business owners in the first place.
And while my heart sank each time I heard this—I knew this was merely a reflection of programming and their own inner reality—but is not the actual truth.
This is a programmed belief that many were taught as kids. Or teens. Or even young adults.
We allow ourselves to believe that money defines our worth and value—and therefore “mismanaging it” or “not having enough” and therefore asking for help is a Scarlett letter.
It’s not money or the lack thereof that is the problem.
Money is neutral.
We use money as a projection of our own thoughts and stories about ourselves.
There are millions of humans with little to no money who feel completely at peace and fulfilled in their lives, and on the other end—plenty who have millions and feel no peace or fulfillment.
We are not what we have or even what we do.
We are who we are—the essence of human spirit inside that is unchangeable and unbreakable no matter how many possessions or dollars we have, or how much we do.
Define your value and worth by possessions and money—and that sets you up for a constant never-ending pursuit that has no end—and therefore constant worry, anxiety, and stress.
And yes—we do require money in our world to pay bills.
But right now — there is so much assistance being offered.
When help is offered—whether it’s in the form of waiving late fees or interest or in disaster relief loans—it is because there are humans out there looking out for us.
When we refuse the help because of a falsely programmed belief—that is simply the makings of denial and pride.
We judge ourselves for receiving help.
Yet interestingly, those who refuse help wear a badge of honor as “being a helper.”
But there’s a little sneaky hidden piece here:
Author Brene Brown says it beautifully:
“When we deny ourselves to receive help, we unknowingly or knowingly judge others whom we help.”
Don’t stop helping others. But don’t forget to put yourself on the list.
You are worthy of love, belonging, attention, and support. That is unchanging no matter what you do or don’t do, and what you have or don’t have. And it is unchanging no matter what anyone else tells you about it.
We are human beings, not human havings or doings.
You can do this.
You are resilient and strong.
You have made it through 100 percent of uncertain days in your life—because EVERY moment is uncertain. You can’t measure uncertainty and therefore there is no such thing as “more uncertain.” There is more emotion around certain times compared to others. But uncertainty is not an emotion. It is simply a state of being—and it is the state in which we exist at all times.
We like to pretend we can predict the future—but we don’t know what’s going to happen 1 week from now let alone one second from now.
It will ALL be ok.
What can you do right now to practice letting go, trusting, and asking for support—even if the person you’re asking to support you is YOU?
Hugs and love to all of you!!